The Makings of a Morning Ritual

After five years of virtually connecting with my mentor, I was thrilled when she told me she was coming to Orlando for a conference and wanted to get together. We would finally get to meet in person. YAY! I could hardly contain my excitement. She pulled into the parking lot, I got out of my car, ran over to her and we embraced in a hug, swaying back and forth, both giddy with excitement. After the initial shock and excitement, it was as though we were two lifelong friends and the shock of meeting each other for the first time quickly wore off.

We chatted about EVERYTHING. From home, to work, career, my writing (which at that time was still swirling in my head trying to decide WHICH direction I wanted to go, paralyzing me from taking any direction at all)…and then she asked me the question:

“How often do you and your hubby talk?”

Silly question, I thought. We talk all the time. “No. Really talk…sit and talk, not about the kids or schedules, or where you have to be tomorrow, but just talk?” Hmmmmmm…..I knew the answer: we are so challenged by our schedule and activities that our conversation time was practically at a screeching halt!

In a serious voice, and some what in a stern motherly tone she leaned in and said “You need to find a way to connect. What about morning tea?” He’ll never go for it, I thought. I’m a morning person, he’s a night owl. We’re two opposite ends of the spectrum. I tried staying up at night to talk with him, and could barely function the next day. So, about a week after meeting with my mentor, I gathered up my courage and asked the dear hubby: “What do you think about getting up for coffee/tea in the morning and sitting on our front porch? Ground rules: no schedule talk, no cell phones.” His response: “Sure, sounds great!”

And so, the morning ritual started. Sure, I have to get up early to get in my morning bike or yoga, but we both know, and the kids know, that from 6:00 – 6:30, we’ll be on the front porch, drinking our tea or coffee. Sometimes we talk a lot, sometimes we talk very little, but that is our dedicated morning time and so far, so good!

So on this Sunday, my advice to you is to stop and pause, and truly think about the connections you have in your life. How can you make them better?

Children’s Book: Maybe

I always love a journey to a bookstore, but most of all, independent bookstores. One of my favorite local bookstores recently moved locations, so I was ecstatic when I finally had time to visit on Friday. I was giddy with excitement when I saw the awning of the new location; I stepped up to the door and instantly recognized the exquisite doorknob. It was lower than I was used to, about at the location of my hips and as I firmly grasped the handle, I noticed the expansive knob, barely able to grip around completely. “What a FABULOUS door knob!” I exclaimed. My friend chimed in with her sarcastic tone, “I’m sure that’s what they were going for, let’s move locations and focus on the door knob.”

We walked in and simultaneously closed our eyes and took a deep breath. After a moment, we came back to reality with a pleasing high of the book store smell. It is like no other. “They should bottle this smell! Incredible!” The new location was light and airy, with simple book displays lining the walls filled with incredible stories, waiting to be picked.

To the left of the door, I noticed a stand with INSPIRATIONAL books, and the book “Maybe” by Kobi Yamada caught my eye. Bingo! I picked up a copy and secretly welcomed it to its new home…our kiddo’s bookshelf. I am a fan of the other books like “What Do. You Do With An Idea?” and was anxious to break out the new story for bedtime that night.

Review: A simple, yet exquisite book full of amazing, life like illustrations. Each page provides a stunning visual and questions to prompt deep discussions with you and your little one. The cute little piggy metaphor of ‘when pigs fly’ comes to life at the end of the story and provides just the motivation you need to inspire you and your loved ones. Highly recommend!

Welcome!

Welcome to Ginny Dandy! After eleven years of on again, off again blogging and daily reminders from “The Universe” to ‘write, write, write’, I’ve birthed yet another blogging platform which will hopefully be ‘The One’ to house my random thoughts on three areas that comprise the majority of my life: motherhood, leadership and books. 

Why the name ‘Ginny Dandy’? I’m a believer that everyone has role models. It starts when you are young; you see someone you admire and you try to imitate their characteristics, to be more like them. Those role models turn to mentors in the professional world, as you climb the corporate ladder in all that you aspire to be. I realized that early on, I had two distinguished role models, my Grandmothers: Jenny and Ginny (pronounced Jenny). I spent the majority of my time with my grandmother Jenny. I was born on her birthday. We shared a bond that is indescribable and even though she is singing in Heaven’s Choir, I’ve never truly felt that she’s been gone from this Earth, or me. She has shaped my life in so many ways, in ways that I hope to give back and to inspire others. My grandmother Ginny was a beautiful, refined woman. She was an entrepreneur, running my Grandfather’s Coal Mining business (a woman in a man’s world!), and was always put together, head to foot. She was loving, but firm. Refined. Sophisticated. 

So, ‘Ginny’ comes from my two Grandmothers and their influence; the hope that their influence shines through allowing you to take a nugget or two to help you in life’s journey. 

‘Dandy’ comes from my philosophy on life. Definition (noun): a (wo)man devoted to style, neatness, and fashion in dress and appearance; an excellent thing of its kind. Life is DANDY!

When you launch a blog, one of the first “rules of thumb” is to define who your audience is… my audience is me and others who are like me:

A Mama. A Working Mother. A Leader. A woman with ambition. An aspiring writer. A woman who wants to change the world.

This life is an illusion and we control how we live it. You have the power to make your life what you want, you just need to step out onto the path you create. –PJ Jackson”

Welcome to #ginnydandy! xoxo